🚧 Draft — not final. A generic, shareable version of this project's approach, published because it may help other families. Give it a human edit before relying on it.

Shared eldercare — a starter kit

Caring for a very elderly parent or grandparent is usually shared across several people — and the failure mode is that critical knowledge lives in only one person's head. This is a reusable structure for shared, dignified care: the few things everyone helping needs, kept current, plus the parts that are easy to forget in the logistics. The person's own wishes lead throughout.

1. The current sheet (the one page that must always be accurate)

A single, always-current reference anyone stepping in can rely on:

Medicines — what, dose, timing, what it's for. (Keep the actual list private to the family; this is just the slot for it.)
Doctors & key numbers — GP, specialists, the preferred hospital, and the "call an ambulance vs. call the doctor" signs.
Conditions & history — what's chronic, what's watched, what's new.
Their wishes — what they've said about their own care, written down and respected.

2. The care rhythm

Who visits when, what each visit covers, and how handovers happen — so nothing falls between two helpers.

3. Comfort audit of their space

Walk their environment for dignity and safety: the bed, the bathroom (grab points, non-slip), lighting, the chair they actually like, trip hazards. Small changes here prevent big events.

4. Company, on purpose

The part logistics crowds out and the part that matters most: reading aloud, old songs, and questions about their life — recorded, when they're willing. A life remembered is a gift in both directions.